| It's all too much |
[Dec. 30th, 2004|03:12 pm] |
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I was talking to a friend today on MSN and he asked me if I thought it was a "bad thing" sleeping with 75 men.
Sudden questions like "All at once?", "Are we talking an orgy, or successive bangs?", "If successive, will there be rest breaks?" "Is there a queue?" and "Where does it start?" all arose. Valiantly pushing them aside, I endeavoured to answer the question.
Is it a bad thing? No. It could indeed be a very good thing, depending on your own subjective idea of good and bad. The fact you've had sex with 75 men would suggest you have some notion of what to do once the introductions are over and the clothes are on the floor. That oughta be a bonus in your favour right?
Personally I feel that if you're safe, respectful and the sex or the urge to have it doesn't get in the way of your everyday life, what's the problem?
My friend felt that he couldn't be with a person who has had sex with 75 men. The idea of someone having had 75 dicks in his mouth was one that troubled him.
One assumes that one would brush.
Presumably for my friend, the idea of having had sex with 75 men is beyond his personal boundary. This is okay, we get to have personal boundaries. Personal boundaries are what stop you from stabbing snobby salespeople. For my friend, 75 people is "too much". But now I'm wondering - If sex is fun, and pleasure is good for you, then how much sex is "too much"?
I find it interesting that we have that reaction, I do wonder why we have it though. Is it a health concern? That someone who has had that "much" sex must have something. If so, are we so paranoid that sex has now become synonymous with disease, and so "too much" sex has become so with a surety of being diseased.
Is it something more subjective? A personal judgement of the morals of anyone who would have "too much". That someone has had sex that often, devalues them as a person. "You're less than me/another because you've had more sex than I have". Does that seemed fucked up to the wazoo with a pineapple to anybody else?
Maybe it's not even being devalued as a person. Could it stem from seeing another person as a sexual commodity? Depreciation of value due to wear and tear on the merchandise?
This suggests a closed sexual economy, wherein there is only so much sex available, and so it's a rush on to see who gets it first, and those that get it later are the losers. Amazingly, however, the human body has a phenomenal potential for pleasure. And we don't wear out all that quickly, provided you use lots of lube, and take a break from playing with it when it get's sore. |
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